Janet’s Blog

sorry sorry sorry sorry

There's a lot I need to unlearn and saying sorry is one of them. What am I even sorry for? It's become my default response to any tiny inconvenience and it makes me small.

There's a lot I shouldn't be apologising for that I do and I default to it so much it's hard to stand up for myself when I need to. It's like I've lost all fight.

I'm beginning to unlearn that it's not my responsibility to worry about how others respond/react. I don't need to coddle anyone, or anything.

In fact, it's disrespectful. There's no such thing as rocking the boat and it's better to be direct. To say 'no' when I don't want to, and not to sugar coat anything because I'm worried about hurting someone else's feelings.

Kindness and honesty can co-exist, and this is something I must internalise.